China Doll's Rules

 These are the rules we currently have. My Guardian adds to them as he sees the need. Like this past weekend - sigh....
1) No disrespect 
     This is pretty straightforward. I will speak to Daddy respectfully at all times.
2) No disobedience
     Another pretty straightforward rule, I will conduct myself in a manner that respects our rules and our vision for our family.
3) No dishonesty
     Whether directly or by omitting information, dishonesty will not be tolerated in our family. 
4) No danger
      This is THE major spankable offense, no texting & driving, no drinking & driving, no doing  anything that endangers the children or myself. 
5) No distance
     This is my major struggle, but we have come to an agreement, if I need some space to figure things out before addressing them with Daddy, I may tell him that I am processing, or that I think we are not ready to discuss things calmly so that he knows that I am not deliberately distancing, but I am having trouble identifying the issue.
6) No self-deprecation
     I may not speak negatively about myself. And technically, doing so is disrespectful to Daddy, I belong to him, and I am therefore questioning his judgement.
7) No bad language
     We wish to represent our family better than to use vulgarity, and we also wish to set a good example for our children.
8) I will engage in self-care
     I will remember that I must meet my own physical and emotional needs before I can take care of  the needs my family, or my friends. 
9) No fit-throwing         
     I am able to communicate my needs and frustrations clearly, effectively and with maturity. Fits, even 'silence' are clear disrespect and will not be tolerated. (this one kind of overlaps #1, #2, #5 - it was not my finest moment, but because it happened, it earned it's own rule).
10) No resistance of any kind during any kind of spanking 
    I will not put my hands back, feet up, clench, or pop off Daddy's lap during any kind of spanking, be it play/gg, discipline or correction. I don't, never have, this is just one of those just in case rules.
11) No forgetting to eat, eat at regular intervals to prevent blood sugar dropping 
    I sometimes forget to eat (yes, big girls forget to eat, too) and I try to do too much. This rule came after I passed out at our oldest's school orientation after donating blood and a morning full of appointments.
12) I will not say "You're the Daddy" to avoid sharing my thoughts, feelings, ideas. 
      I may say it as an acknowledgement of his authority, but I may not use that to hide from difficult conversations
13) I will not blame myself during stressful situations.  
     We will talk through it and get to a healthier place together. If Daddy is at work, I will stop until I can talk with him.
14) I will not 'lose' implements, even ones I'm not particularly fond of
      Or Daddy will find other things to spank me with, and may even go for a walk to cut some switches O_o... and find the baby oil on the way back  >.<
15) I am no longer permitted to estimate my own worth.
      I underestimate and often do not see my value and the value of my contributions. Daddy sees my efforts clearly, and I am to accept his pleasure in me and how I serve him as the true measure of my worth. 
16) If I am unable to sleep, I must wake Daddy so that he can help me get a good night's sleep.
       Regardless of how tired he is, how soundly he is sleeping, and regardless of whether I need to talk, to cuddle, to cry, or need a spanking.


  1. I love your rules... They are so similar to ours.. #7 is a rough one :)

    1. Thanks :) The self-esteem ones are the hardest for me - I am very self-deprecating. It's my default...and he does not like it, lol. And 16, that's hard, because I feel like waking him up is not service when he is so tired, so it pits my desire to serve against my desire to be obedient, and I can spin over those things alone :-p